From the NY Times, a sample of their 36 Questions that Lead to Love. The theory is that if two people work through this exercise together that can radically accelerate intimacy. What I take away from this is that many people habitually share so little of their inner lives that even a little sharing can be very powerful.
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ...”