It’s hard to accept that by bringing a child into the world we’re creating a hostage to fortune. Amy Chua’s child-rearing manifesto . . . presumes that we can prevent our kids from hurt, harm and disappointment. It’s a fantasy of control and protection.Second and more interesting is this review of her book. It seems that the WSJ excerpted the most inflammatory section, as you would expect. But there is more to the story:
Born to Chinese parents who were raised in the Philippines and attended MIT, Ms. Chua, 48, graduated from Harvard and Harvard Law, where she was an executive editor of the Law Review. She confesses in her book that she is “not good at enjoying life,” and that she wasn’t naturally curious or skeptical like other law students. “I just wanted to write down everything the professor said and memorize it.”She told an interviewer that her first draft included a lot about the parenting conflicts between her and her more laid-back husband, but he never thought she was getting his side right, so she decided to leave most of it out.
She was determined to raise her daughters the way she and her three sisters had been raised — which, she said, left them adoring their parents. By her account, her elder daughter, Sophia, complied, excelled and played piano at Carnegie Hall. But the younger, Lulu, rebelled. At the turning point of the memoir, Lulu, then 13, begins smashing glasses in a Moscow restaurant and yelling at her mother, “I HATE my life, I HATE you.”